21 strategies to overcome marital delay

The word of God also says, “Who so looketh into the perfect law of liberty and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.” (Jas 1:25). It is your obedience that gets God involved with your life.

Furthermore, you need to prepare yourself, especially in the area of your manners and in the way you relate with people. Many are not friendly with others; some are always moody and some live in suspicion. Some are not able to trust anyone. There is no way you can easily attract anybody to yourself if you stay in your shell or cocoon and refuse to breakout. You need to come out of such attitudes and practices that are limiting you. There is the need for us to become friendly, sociable or relatable. We need to stop being rude, harsh or suspicious. We also need to become sensitive to the needs of others and think of how you can solve people’s problems.

Anyone who desires to overcome marital delay must locate relevant books or materials on this subject. Through these materials we can get acquainted with principles that will help us to position ourselves for the right partner.

It is also important for us to prepare ourselves in our appearance. (I’ve talked about this in the previous chapters). The way you dress will attract or repel others. The way you dress is the way you are addressed. Your dressing creates the first impression and that is where the journey of any relationship begins. Your dressing creates the atmosphere of acceptance, favour, respect or shame and reproach.

Prepare yourself by receiving counseling. Meet the right people, open up, ask relevant questions and be humble enough to take corrections. One hour of counseling can save you from a lifetime of hassles and delay. The word of God succinctly put it thus: “Where no counsel is, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety” (Pro 11:14).

Sometimes it is not only prayers you need, receiving the counsel from the right person will make your journey faster. So, many ladies depend on the power of powder and pancake to attract the right men, but that is one of the most serious mistakes anyone can ever make. How will Ruth have met Boaz if she had not listened to Naomi? A young man came to me some time ago to know what has been causing delay in his marital life. Through proper examinations and diagnosis I discovered that he was not improving his ability to relate with people on a platonic level. Many do not even bother to relate with the opposite sex in any way until they are looking for whom to marry. You need someone who is highly experienced, trustworthy, God-fearing, someone who walks according to God’s word to counsel you and expose you to things that you do not know.

The subject of preparation cannot be over-emphasised. There are things that you are probably praying for right now that God knows you are not prepared for yet. Your level of preparation will determine how far you go in life and how much success you make of your marriage. Concerning one of the kings of Israel the Bible says: “So Jotham became mighty, because he prepared his ways before the Lord his God” (2 Chr 27:6). You too can overcome marital delay if you will prepare yourself adequately.

If you desire to attract the right man as a lady you must prepare yourself by cultivating the heart of a virtuous woman (see Proverb 31:10-31), cultivate the heart of a good wife and that of a mother. So also the man who is expecting the right lady should build himself to become a loving and caring man, gentle, humble and thoughtful. Only such men can treat a woman as a lady. We need to work on our character and we must be willing to change. Without working on your character you are not adequately prepared. Keep working on yourself, become a better person. Become someone that almost everyone that comes in contact with you will desire to have. Without adequate preparation we cannot overcome marital delay. We need spiritual preparation, emotional preparation, financial preparation and wise planning.

Rev. (Barrister) Solomon Ojigiri (The Senior Pastor), 08059203554, 08023997277 sowoojigiri@yahoo.com
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