Show Of Love On Valentine’s Day Means Romanticism

IS Valentine’s Day show of love a one-day affair? No it is not. It is a celebration of real everyday love. The problem some people, especially men have with the celebration of Valentine’s Day is that love is celebrated only one day and thereafter forgotten until the next year. Although we tend to agree with this opinion, but we it is to believed that many people do not really understand what love, real love is and that is why we sometimes find this awesome emotion-love a bit troubling or troublesome.   

  Troubling because you feel you are in love with somebody, have vowed to spend your lives together, but you break up half-way through because you encounter obstacles that together prove difficult to tackle? The worse is that both parties may not have parted as friends, such that the relationship leaves a bitter taste in the mouth and a sour heart. With such a person feeling hurt in remembering, he would see any reason to laugh at love; he only nurses the fear that nothing good comes out of love. So he would scoff at the celebration of love.

  Love is, therefore, not the issue. The issue may be how you love; if you take a look at a person and decide immediately that he or she is the one, without knowing him deeply enough, you may be headed to a broken heart. If outward qualities like good looks, a good job and wealth are what you want in a relationship, love does not rank high with you. You may have all these and be in emotional pains because they do not comfort you. Think of love and all these may come with the package.

  V-Day should, therefore, be celebrated by couples who have gone through thick and thin and have survived. Those whose relationship had derailed at some point and they were able to put it back on track should not be denied this one day extremities; excessive celebration, if you like; unfaithfulness, quarrels that have made them want to pack and go their separate ways, but they chose to work through it and are happy for that decision.

  When they sit together at Valentine’s Day dinner or hold each other closely in a dance, they can comfortably tell each other a love story.

 Intending couples can avoid the pitfalls that make people laugh at the celebration of love- women especially. Men are contemptuous of V-Day because they see it as sappy to the point of being pretended. To some guys, it calls for commitment they do not want –spending, which they try to evade. Still the guy benefits from a stable and love-filled relationship. If you know how to show love, that guy who has taken a liking to you may want to come closer. Do not say that you do not believe in love, for love is what makes your world go round.  What could make you happier than receiving a gift or someone making you laugh happily in return?

  Celebration calls for balance; if you make romance sound like unnecessary sentimentality, the one who you want in your life may feel overwhelmed. If your way of showing you care is to suffocate, your love gesture may not be returned, because your guy thinks he cannot give you adequately. When you feel disappointed, you will hoot V-Day. 

 The summary, therefore, is that Valentine’s is all about romance; appreciation of everyday love. Valentine’s Day is meant to remind couples of the need to keep romance alive. When you overdo it, your lover’s contempt or outright rejection helps you to discipline yourself. When you fail to show appreciation, too, your better half will teach you to remember to be grateful for what you have by reprimanding you for ‘forgetting’ or by making up excuses not to celebrate you.

  Let the love drip today; let the presents flow if that is how you feel. The important thing is that love is not put in a hidden corner because you have to go to work, other relationships to keep alive, so that when you bring it out to air one year after that, it is still as fresh as ever. The two of you can look at your lives and laugh heartily about it and would want to make fresh plans to enjoy your love life again.

  It is not for those who can look at themselves, grit their teeth and think that all is lost because they feel disappointed

 Why Are You Disappointed?

Answer: You are not happy because you feel that lovers should stay together every moment. You are wrong. However, instead of wishing that you were gummed together every minute, try to do certain things on your own when you are in a relationship and see how refreshing your love relationship feels when you have a different story to share with him.

  You may not be happy in love because you rush things too fast; you’ve just met today and you think that he has to be the one. You do not bother to check that he is a good match, but you weave your expectation of a dream man around this man whose idea of romance is totally different.  The result is often disappointment.

  To you, Valentine’s is not complete without a lavish dinner at a five- star hotel and you would feel ashamed to tell friends that he did not give a lavish present.  

  If you have been dating like this and find yourself alone this Val’s Day, think of those guys you have left because the earth did not quake when you met, but thought for some moment that they could be suitors until you broke up with them for some flimsy excuse. Think of the one in your life at the moment but whom you continually wish would do things differently. Instead of wishing that his taste in presents could improve, think of the little things he does like cheering you up when you feel low. On the long run, little things like his kind acts are what will make you happy

  The real romantics are those who know that you do not have to overdo things to show love. You know that love is giving and receiving. Instead of waiting for him to pamper you, do something that will make the two of you happy. That is what will keep your union going.

  Do not be against romance; be happy for those who think that their love is worth celebrating. Keep an open mind and you may be surprised to see someone giving you a present on the day or even inviting you out. When you jeer at love, you are saying that you do not want all the pampering that comes with romance.   If some people say that love has to be celebrated on a particular day, why sneer and protest against it? Put yourself forward for all that food and enjoyment and keep the hope alive that you could meet him today, February 14.