Ummmmm…so, as a mature, intelligent, successful, honest, Black male, I agree with a lot in this article, and I also disagree with some things. I would agree that everything that was mentioned is a turnoff to most Men. Hands down. I don’t agree that a Man can “accept her AND HER weaves”. How can I “accept” her when I really don’t know who she is? She keeps hiding herself behind a different costume in the form of fake hair, fake eyelashes, fake nails, drawn on eyebrows, etc? If I accept that on a female, I’m accepting a caricature of a whoever she really is. When a Woman does all of that fake stuff, I don’t believe she is “accepting” herself, because she is clearly presenting to the world something she isnt. She is in costume. I wouldn’t expect an actress in Hollywood to be the same way with me in real life when she is playing a character on T.V. When Women dress up and become a different character, I’m not capable of accepting the real her, but the character she is at that moment.
I think Women would have more success with GREAT MEN if they ditched the fakeness and learned to appreciate in themselves what is actually important – INNER BEAUTY. NO amount of beauty enhancements can up build that. When I see fakeness on any level, I don’t feel that Woman can be trusted with my heart until we grow old and die together because I don’t really know who she is. I’m 100% me when you see me as a Man. No fake muscles, no fake extended penis, no fake big hands, no fake big feet, no fake abs, etc or whatever sexually turn Women on. Why would I want anyone appearing they are sexier or more attractive than they really are because once I see you for what you REALLY look like, I won’t have any respect for you because you lied, at the end of the day. It doesn’t matter to me if White Women do it too, or if Women do it because Men like it, or these wack protective hair care excuses, it’s still fake. Just because other Black males are walking around with their pants hanging off their behinds doesn’t mean that I should do it too. Just because so many Black Men are having children and aren’t taking care of them doesn’t mean I should do it too. That’s just ignorant reasoning. No one should be fake, period.
If a Woman who had her life together in every way met a Man who presented himself to have his life together and she found out it was all an act, she’d dismiss him with the quickness. She wouldn’t tolerate his phony lifestyle, AT ALL. It’s remarkable how these Women want Men to accept the fakeness and act like it doesn’t affect the relationship and its longevity. It does.

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