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How To Deal With Bad Sex

10 November 2015   |   10:49 am

The mood is set. Soft music is playing in the background, you’ve had a good meal, some wine, stimulating conversation, a brilliant make out session, and now your clothes are strewn across the living room, your bodies entwined on the plush rug. Somewhere between all the moaning and grunts and body movements, you realize this isn’t quite as enjoyable as you’d hoped it would be.

Hopefully, you haven’t ever had to experience the sinking feeling at the pit of your stomach that’s commonly associated with “bad sex”. Now I’ve often been asked, and myself asked as well, what exactly bad sex is, so maybe a topic for another day? But, in the event that you end up in a situation where the sex is bad, and you’ve both already hit the midway mark, how exactly do you handle something like that?

Personally, I feel you should be able to stop your partner and mention your dissatisfaction because honesty and openness is key in every relationship. However, there are those who feel less brass tactics should be employed lest the person get annoyed and decide they no longer wish to exchange body fluids with you. Some believe it’s best to say and do nothing and simply find a way to end the relationship – which even I think is a bit extreme.

So, how do you deal with bad sex?
Assuming that this isn’t just a one night stand, where you can quite simply just get up and never have to see the person again, you will have to skip the excuses for avoiding bad sex like faking illness or cramps. I mean, you can only lie for a lmited amount of time before your partner catches on and begins to ask questions you might not be willing to answer. Way I see it, there are two most doable options:

Talk about it

Sit down, preferably over a nice meal, or with some alcohol and talk about how you feel the sex couldbe better. There’s no need to be shy or condescending during this conversation and it can actually be something both of you can laugh about. In my opinion, this is by far the easiest of the options, because it saves you so much time and stress and you can sort it all out right off the bat.

Dealing with bad sex: Show Him/Her How To Be Better

If you think having a conversation about sexual inadequacy will be too uncomfortable, you could always take the subtle route and show your partner how you like to be satisfied in the sac. This is of course assuming that you know your body and know what you like. You can always find a way to maneuver your bodies in the bedroom and place your partner in a more satisfying position.

Every woman wants to enjoy sex when she has it, and any decent guy wants sex to be an enjoyable experience for both parties, so there’s no reason to write someone off as “bad sex” just because they fail to perform one time. Intensify the foreplay, take control and have your partner follow, or watch some porn together even. Both of you should be able to work together to make the experience pleasurable for all parties involved.

Have any tips for dealing with bad sex, please share them in the comments and help someone out. You could be saving a relationship.

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