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What you think is what you become – power of neuro linguistic programming

By Lanre Olusola
18 October 2018   |   3:19 am
Shayo, who is an only girl, was just 17 years old when she witnessed the first physical fight between her parents. The fight continued for months and finally led to her parents getting a divorce. The divorce had a negative effect on Shayo and as a result...

Lanre Olusola

Shayo, who is an only girl, was just 17 years old when she witnessed the first physical fight between her parents. The fight continued for months and finally led to her parents getting a divorce. The divorce had a negative effect on Shayo and as a result, she began to withdraw from the rest of her family. Shayo’s mother never understood what was wrong with her daughter, and would always refer to her as a ‘problem child’.

Shayo performed badly in school due to her inability to concentrate. Her results were very poor, and because of this she got transferred to different schools multiple times. She eventually graduated and travelled to Canada for her University degree. After her University education, Shayo was able to secure a well-paying job. When asked about marriage, Shayo always stated that she did not have the intention of getting married at the moment and still wanted to take her time.

Shayo is currently 33 years, but is finding it difficult to stay in a committed relationship. She constantly attracts the same type of men – either he sleeps with her and leaves, abuses her physically/emotionally, or is a serial cheat. This affected her self-confidence and self-worth and she often feet like she is not good enough.

Desperate to find a solution, Shayo went on the Internet to get help, and stumbled upon the page of a Certified Life coach and trained Psychotherapist. After going through the Coach’s reviews, she booked an appointment with him. During the course of their sessions, Shayo had to go through a series of processes to deal with her childhood trauma, past experiences and begin the journey to healing, forgiveness and letting go.

The Coach at some point applied Neuro-Linguistic Programming because Shayo had some limiting beliefs and barriers, which were affecting her choices of men, her self-esteem, self-worth and her life in general. Different coaching tools were also used in order to move Shayo from her current state to where she desires to be. Today, Shayo is better than she used to be. She has a healthy relationship with her family, and a good sense of self-worth. She is open to commitment again, and will find someone in due time. Shayo is where she is today with the help of a Life Coach and Psychotherapist, who made use of different tools, one of them, is called: Neuro Linguistic Programming.

What is Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)?
Neuro Linguistic Programming is the systematic study of the thoughts (Neuro), Language (Linguistic) and the scripts running our lives (programming). NLP deals with understanding and developing the mind. It deals entirely with understanding the language of the mind. How it is designed to function and how it is molded by our personal experiences. It is the study of our subjective reality. Our mind, once properly understood influences everything, ranging from relationships, communication with friends, clients and personal outcomes in life. Below are some areas of life, an individual can apply NLP.

1. FOR PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS AND SELF MASTERY: To consistently succeed in life, work and business in Nigeria today and all over the world, you must have “game excellence”. Your success is dependent on your personal effectiveness and self-mastery. Consistent success and competitive leverage requires you staying motivated, exceeding norms and overcoming all barriers. NLP is a phenomenal mind/body connection tool that helps you gain mastery over your thoughts, self-worth/confidence, emotions, beliefs, work, business and life.

2. IN RELATIONSHIPS (MARRIAGES): The recent statistics holds a grim future for marriages and love relationships. With 1 in 2 marriages globally ending up in divorce and 7 out of 10 marriages in Nigeria ending up in one form of separation or the other, it becomes paramount to get relationship management skills needed to ensure you get the right partner and keep them by being the right partner. NLP helps you understand and master the matrix of human and relationship behavior.

3. FOR BUSINESS LEADERS AND ENTREPRENEURS: For business success, every business leader must master how to make money and manage people. Business leaders with their teams have to set and achieve powerful goals. With NLP, business leaders and entrepreneurs can master the art and science of setting and achieving powerful goals and effectively managing their work force.

4. LEADERSHIP EFFECT IVENESS: The success of a Leader is determined by the success of their followers. Effective communication and motivation are critical leadership success factors.
NLP helps leaders:
a. Understand the neuropsychology of leadership
b. Understand human behavior and learn how to unlock their followers potentials
c. Master the art of inspiring loyal followership
d. Master the art of leading and motivating high-functioning/performing teams
e. Master the art of Vision Creation, Strategy Formulation and Execution
f. Achieve more with less

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) can help you examine all domains of your life, and go beyond the daily mix-up of thoughts, in order to pursue your life goals.
The application of Neuro-Linguistic Programming into your daily life can do this for you and many more. Why don’t you equip yourself with this amazing technique by registering for our Neuro-Linguistic Programming Masterclass, taking place from the 24th – 29th October 2018. You can also register for our Emotional Freedom Technique Masterclass (EFT), which holds from the 22nd to the 23rd of October 2018. For more information, call us on 08077077000 or send an email to info@olcang.com

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