Better be divorced than dead!!!

After having a look at his DEEP STAB WOUND and taking the preliminary steps to stabilise his condition-the doctor told those around that “the knife” missed his heart by a few inches.

Who stabbed him?
His wife of four years. And the mother of his only child (a girl).

According to those that are privy to the issues of the couple in the eye of the storm, he has a habit of coming back home (almost on a daily basis)-very late and drunk, but woe betide the wife if she went to sleep on a night he comes back and has to waste his time knocking at the (often locked) gate.

In other words, it is expected of her to keep waiting for him (in addition to having his warm food ready) and it matters not how late he comes in or how sleepy she was.

She is simply to come open the gate for him, this is almost a daily occurrence, according to witnesses.

Her failure to carry out these instructions have resulted in severe beatings (she had a broken wrist-bone to show for it, which is still cast with POP and broken lips at some point).

Asked if she bothered notifying anybody about the ABUSE, she said their pastor and his wife are aware of it but would not hear of her numerous cries for help, that is, her desire to walk out of the marriage.

Pastor was out of town at the time of this incident but his wife confirmed that the STABBING SISTER had come to them on several occasions (often with bleeding injuries on her body-resulting from his beatings) to complain about her ordeal in the hands of her husband and that she often ends such complaints with a declaration that she is fed up with the marriage and wants to quit.
Of course, pastor and his wife would not hear of such.

DIVORCE? NO WAY!
They would often pray for her and send her back home with some Bible verses to meditate on, assuring her that the devil was out to destroy her marriage and make her a divorcee (A SIN!). And that she must not allow that.

Apparently, the poor woman got to a point of I CANNOT TAKE THIS ANYMORE and fought back-the night he pounced on her (as usual) for making him stand at the gate for a long time according to him, after he came home from one of those his late night outings.

The man’s life is said to still be hanging in the balance. He is not out of the woods yet, as the stab wound is said to be very deep.

I know the pastor and his wife probably meant well for their flock, who look up to them for help with the desired HAPPY ENDINGS.

I am just asking…should we not be realistic enough to accept the fact that certain LIFE- THREATENING MARITAL DISASTERS such as this one could have been avoided if the woman was encouraged to give the alcoholic and abusive husband a break, all the while she was crying out for help?

Look the disaster that’s at hand now…thanks to our DIVORCE IS A SIN approach to every marital challenge!

Even common sense would have dictated that the one that has been crying out for help all along be really listened to.

Yeah, DIVORCE IS A SIN…BUT MURDER IS EVEN A BIGGER SIN!

I mean temporary separation (I’m not preaching divorce-at least not yet!) should be used to WATCH THINGS and determine if, indeed, the couple involved are better off coming together after a while or going their separate ways for good-especially in the case of ABUSE.

What has just happened is that the woman snapped! At this stage-there is a thin line between sanity and insanity in an individual who has been pushed beyond the limits of her endurance.

DEPRESSION (probably fuelled by accumulated anger/ hopelessness) also enables this kind of “mode” in a person.

Of course, one is indeed thankful that this did not result in murder (at least, not yet) and equally praying that the one who PUNCHES his wife survives the DEEP STAB wound.

I can’t imagine the turn their marriage would take after this-except God really intervenes.

There are in-laws that will find it unforgivable that she nearly killed their son, her own people will also hate him for making their daughter go through all that and…We all know that marriage does not take such pummelling from external forces well.

Simply put, things can never be the same again in that marriage, take it or leave it.

I keep asking-does it really have to get this ugly or almost deadly before those involved in such settings realise that IT

IS NOT WORKING?
I hope we see reasons in this cliché of mine…BETTER BE DIVORCED THAN DEAD!