The Woman And Her Man
GOD has commanded a woman to be submissive to her own husband. I am one of those who believe that obedience to the word of God must be unconditional. I believe we have to obey and trust God at all times. But I also know that we are all human and we require some form of encouragement to keep doing the right thing.
What am I trying to say? My dear brothers, you need to wake up and help women. A wise woman builds her home; yes, but no matter how hard she tries to build a strong home, there will be no strong home until you are committed to making it work.
Wake up and take your place in our lives. If she wants a home, but you are busy sleeping with everything in skirt, what makes you think she’ll have the home she desires?
How easy is it for a woman to submit to a man who does nothing else other than remind her that he married her with his money? How submissive would she be to a man who constantly reminds her of his headship in the home? It’s even surprising to see men in this our generation telling a woman to shut up as she should only be seen and never heard.
Hear this; if you are in the habit of reminding your wife and putting it on her face that you are the head of your home, it says just one thing- he is yet to become the head indeed.
When a man is truly the head of his home, even a little child entering the home for the first time will know that there is order. There will be so much peace and serenity in that home. When you are being piloted by a man who knows how to do the take-off and landing, you are relaxed. But when you know that this pilot cannot lead you safely to your destination, there is bound to be panic and chaos.
Husband, father, do your children and wife have faith in you? Do they see themselves arriving their destination safely with daddy as the head? Their lack of faith in you could be the reason they are not submissive to you.
Are you one of those who want to be respected when they don’t even know what it means for one to respect himself? Sir, you don’t earn respect by being bossy and aggressive. Respect flows naturally from people to you when they see that you deserve it.
Don’t think your wife respects you simply because she becomes a zombie each time she is around you. I marvel when I see a wife become her real self just because her man is nowhere around her.
Sir, don’t fool yourself into believing that you know your wife if you are not her friend. Have you wondered why some women love it when their husband is out of town? Did you know that a good number of women pray for the boss (husband) to travel and stay away for months? Now you know.
You call her your wife but you don’t know how much her bra is. And you have the audacity to complain about your wife not being fashionable. Sir, those women you see and admire on pages of magazines look that way because they are well taken care of. Spend money on your wife; she is your glory.
What am I not saying? I am not saying she has to be 100% dependent on you. But sir, no matter how independent or rich a woman is, she longs for a man who will do those little things for her. When was the last time you saw a beautiful dress and bought it for your wife?
You remind her you are the head; a head that she cannot trust to cover her nakedness? You admire all the beautiful women out there but you refuse to make your wife to be admired by other men.
Sir, if you have not married your wife to the point that she becomes the envy of her fellow women and the admiration of your fellow men, you have failed. If people have not started saying that she has “given you vegetable”, you are not there. Even the strongest man becomes weak in the arms of a woman he truly loves.
Don’t let your very low self-esteem destroy a woman you claim to love (that is if you married her for love and not for your aged mother to see her grandchildren). You cannot tell her to see you as the head when you don’t love her like your own body.
(To be continued next week)