Each time I remember, i still feel angry with my wife

I have been married for over 30 years. My wife has a reputation for being very conservative, a real “miss goody 2 shoes.”
While tapping my phone calls, I was always a jealous person, but was certain that she would never be unfaithful.

I discovered a call from my wife’s co-worker. The conversation was fairly innocent until she said, “I hope you are still thinking about me?” It ended with each of them saying, “I love you.”

I confronted her with this and found out that these conversations had been going on for about four months. Most of the calls were on her cell phone. I took her phone away (one of the reasons I did not walk out on her right then).

She said there was no physical contact whatsoever and they talked about meeting somewhere outside of work, but didn’t. She promised it was over and would never have any contact with him again.

But a few weeks later, while walking through the halls where she works, I saw the two of them talking. They did not see me. When I confronted her, at first she denied it, but then said they were just talking and she would really not talk to him again. I told her I was leaving her, but she “persuaded” me to stay.

A few months later, I caught her with a pay-as-you-go cell phone. Guess whose phone number showed up? After 30 years of marriage, I can say that this is so out of character for my wife.

It has been three years now and our marriage has been very rocky. She has been overly affectionate and caring (she does not want me to leave).

I have been very upset and hurt and have been treating her badly ever since, even though I do really love her. This is not like me. I have not worn my wedding ring or told her I loved her for three years.

My trust in my high school sweetheart is gone. My marriage is not a happy one for me. I am having a real hard time dealing with this for the past three years.

Am I doing the right thing? I need some advice.
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