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Be In A Relationship With You

By Bridget
27 June 2016   |   9:16 am
Society has created a cycle that has eaten deep into the fabric of the confidence of individuals. We are told to do this in the following order: get an education, be in a relationship, get a job, get married and live happily ever after. Life really doesn’t work that way and if it does, what…

Society has created a cycle that has eaten deep into the fabric of the confidence of individuals. We are told to do this in the following order: get an education, be in a relationship, get a job, get married and live happily ever after. Life really doesn’t work that way and if it does, what is the level of fulfillment from living like a robot? We are told what to do to fit in society but not told how to fit into us as individuals. We so often forget that before we enter a relationship with another person, we need to have a good relationship with the man/woman inside. You need to be able to love you as an individual before you love an entirely different individual.

Be In A Relationship With You

To sweep yourself off your feet you have to do the things listed below:

Get to know yourself

You know that long period of getting to know your partner? How about you invest that time in getting to know yourself? What are your likes and dislikes? What makes you smile? What are your aspirations in life? What did you do when you were younger and how has it affected you now? Do you have a bucket list? The list is endless. It would surprise you the many things you didn’t know about yourself. This period would also help other sectors of your life and make you detailed in how you present yourself.

Take care of yourself

How often do you treat yourself to some good old T.L.C (tender love and care)? Learn how to take care of yourself. Eat healthy, exercise, engage in positive hobbies and every now and then show yourself a nice time. Go to the movies, have a dinner date for one, watch the sunset from a rooftop, go to the beach, appreciate Mother Nature and, most of all, learn how to make yourself happy.

Appreciate the things you do

This is a confidence booster, not in the way that is cocky and proud. Learn how to appreciate the things you do. There is absolutely no need to be validated by someone else, if not you would become dependent on that validation. What happens when they are no longer there? In doing, you have to be honest with yourself, be true to yourself and appreciate you for being you. Gift yourself for that promotion, buy yourself something new for sealing that deal and sometimes, go on a vacation because you deserve it.

Commit to making yourself better

A lot of people invest time and money in their partners and when something goes wrong, they don’t entirely regret being with that person but the things they could have done for themselves instead. That is probably the worst feeling in the world because everything would remind you of what that person got from you, and that is unhealthy. Nobody needs to live like that. So honey, here is what you do: set a timeline for yourself, set goals for yourself and smash them. The energy, resources and time you commit to making your partner better, switch it up and make you a better person. At the end of the day, whatever relationship you commit to, you won’t have a sense of regret because you would have accomplished most things and won’t mind helping your partner if need be.

Man know thyself- Socrates

Nothing is more important than how you feel and think about yourself.

What is your sense of self worth? Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”  I agree with this quote. You need to fall in love with you, understand you, and know your worth as an individual and a key member of society. If you don’t see the beauty in you it would be very difficult for someone else to see it in you.

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