Are you the best woman for him?
How do you take your relationship to the next level with a good man without scaring him away by accident? I want to share with you a question one of my friends asked me earlier in the week about the guy we all knew she’s been dating for a while now. She said
“Kemi, you know I’ve been with Tade for about 3 years now, and we are good together for the most part, barring the minor conflicts. How do I know if he’s the one for me, and if I should take the next step?
I actually congratulated her for being with Tade for three years because knowing Bukola, she has never been the type to stick to a guy for that long. That is an accomplishment on her own part if I must say. The best thing about dating a guy that long is that he’s definitely serious about her. He’s not playing around - he really does like her very much. I have met him on several occasions and trust me when I say I think he’s the one for her.
At this crucial point in her relationship, she needs to do two things:
1. Make sure he’s the one
2. Make him know that you are the one for him, too.
Now in making sure he’s the one, there are many signs he’ll be good for you for the rest of his life, but here are some of the most important ones:
Does his views on monogamy, marriage, and children match yours?
Naturally, you’ll need to be on the same page when it comes to your life in the future. And if not, he should be willing to work on a compromise.
Do you share the same religious and spiritual beliefs?
A lot of women go into relationships without thinking about this step. Sure, some married couples who don’t share the same beliefs get along well but most others don’t for long. So keep this in mind!
Do your family and friends support your union?
Believe me when I say that having a supportive family makes married life so much easier. It takes a village to raise a child! What’s more, married couples with supportive loved ones have better, stronger relationships than couples who don’t.Now you also need to make him realise that you are the one for him. Only you can make the decision easy for him! Here’s how:
Do you know how to handle conflicts?
Trust me, even the strongest relationships go through their own storms. Do you have the maturity to weather those storms and respect him throughout the trials?
Can he talk to you about anything?
Guys need to talk and vent sometimes, too. The question is: Are you his number 1favourite conversation partner? He needs to know that you will not judge him no matter what.
Does he feel completely understood and accepted by you?
Sometimes, it’s not enough to understand and accept him. He has to feel it, too. That’s why communication is so important in any strong relationship.
Now, after reading this short list, you might be thinking that managing a relationship sounds challenging. It definitely can feel that way. And what’s more, the challenges change as you move from “just dating” to “being engaged,” from being a fiancee to being a wife and so on.But the thing is that there’s no need to figure the whole process out for yourself. Let me help you go from one level to the next!
Imagine if instead of having to work so hard for your relationship, you just sit back and let things flow.Everything comes to the relationship naturally- love, happiness, wisdom, knowledge, wealth, security, loyalty, health, and more. And with each passing day, he shows his tender love for you in exciting, touching little ways. That’s exactly what happens when you’re completely “in sync” and in love with each other. Your relationship becomes effortless and exciting, and you focus most of your time looking for newer, more enjoyable ways to enjoy each other’s company.
And that’s the secret of most happy couples all around the world today. These lucky men and women are completely “in sync” and “in love” with each other. And that’s what I want for you, too.Understand him, love him, nurture him and be the type of woman he wants and you’ll see everything falling in place for you and your man.To our happiness. Cheers.