For The Love Of Man( IV)

PamelaWHAT every Husband should know Every husband is the leader of the home. Therefore it is more accurate to say that a man is the home maker than it is to say that a woman is.

(Sorry to burst any bubbles) As leader of the home, the nature or atmosphere of a home is dependent on what sort of man the leader is. It is true that a woman implements the principles and values but ultimately, the man is the one who predominantly sets the tone – the principles and the values.

Of course there are men who are absentee leaders and this is why you find in many cases women who take over authority in the home. As a woman I can tell you sincerely that it is not that we want; most certainly we want a real man.

A man who will stand up to us – not a man who will fight with us but one who will stand up as a true leader and make the tough decisions that need to be made. Why should you yield your leadership? It only tells us that you’re spineless and undependable.

Some of the time when you see wives pushing the boundaries of authority they are advertently or inadvertently trying to get the man to rise up and take the reins (This is the case some of the time); Or in a bid not to let the family be shipwrecked.

If the man doesn’t take the lead the wife loses respect for him and the hierarchy is ultimately set – yet imbalanced in this state. According to Knowledge Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1 Peter 3:7 KJV) For a marriage and home to succeed you must understand the purpose and the drive of a woman – she is God’s greatest gift to you apart from His Son and the Holy Spirit.

The scripture says dwell with them (your wives) according to knowledge. This means that every husband of necessity must be endowed with wisdom – knowledge, not according to brawn or dictated by your own selfish desires.

This, I firmly believe is one of the reasons why marriages fail or are unhappy – a lack of intelligent leadership. If you’re to ask most men what the role of a man and a wife is in marriage, you will either find them lost for words or sadly mistaken.

Some men believe that their sole responsibility is to make money and provide for the comforts of life and the woman’s jurisdiction is relegated to the home alone without his necessary input. Thus, they give themselves to work and do a very good job of it if I dare say! The moral values of the home are left wholly to the woman.

Men must know and chose wisely what comes into their homes. The first institution God ordained is marriage. It will alarm some to think that family life/marriage is on a higher level than church ministry.

Don’t be. But consider these words carefully. A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, … One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?) (1 Timothy 3:2-5 KJV) Therefore, if you cannot rule your own house you have no business taking care of the church. You have failed in your foremost duty.

Likewise, if you’re successful in business but fail woefully at home you have failed altogether – do not deceive yourself. It is a true man who is able to keep his home.

It also follows that if he is able to keep a home he is able to sincerely and truly handle other great responsibilities. Between the Men and the Boys Marriage consists of two people essentially; a man and his wife.

Unfortunately, a great deal of men are simply boys looking for a woman who would be a mother instead of a wife, to them. They seek women who will satisfy their physical needs of sex, eating, taking care of them physically, etc, This is a great disservice to a woman and ultimately to the man.

Society accentuates the physical benefits of women to the detriment of their core. As a result, you have misinformed men who think they know who a woman is and what she was created to be. Albeit, you (man) might not come readymade but there is always room to learn. To be continued next week…

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